Guest Post From Jenni Bolton

“Mine! Mine! Mine!”

This is what my 4 year old screamed recently as he realized I bought food for us to share at Chick-fil-a instead of his own box. Hits were exchanged between brothers and melt downs ensued. Humiliated, I snatched him up and left pronto, and my response to him was not calm to say the least. Anyone feel me?! It’s times like this and countless other difficult parenting moments, that the enemy whispers these lies over my mind-

-You’re not good enough.

-You don’t have what it takes.

-You can’t do this.

-You’re weak.

-Everyone is doing it better than you.

-You’re a failure. Their behavior is you’re fault. Change is not possible.

-You’re drowning in your trials.

-You’re not seen or loved.

Gods Word says, “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith.” 1 Peter 5:8-9

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is, his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans‬ ‭12:2‬ ‭

I think the biggest battle we face isn’t all the crazy things our kids do everyday, it’s the battle of our minds. Satan wants to devour us and he does this by deceiving our minds. Our thoughts turn into feelings, and our feelings flow into actions. The thoughts are not the problem, but only when we take them as truth and let them dictate our actions. Last year, I really came to a broken place as our family was facing some major challenges, and was sick of the enemy’s lies being louder than Gods Truth. I went and bought a $2 index card flip book, and starting filling it with verses to fight back against the lies. I call it my “Battle Book”, and I take it everywhere I go and speak scripture out loud and pray them over my life and family. Gods Word is the only book that’s alive and active and can heal, restore, redeem, and transform our minds. I can truly say it’s done all these things for me! As our mind is healthy and saturated with Gods truth we can overflow His heart and perspective to our kids, spouses, and community.

Trust me when I say I’m a work in progress over here, but I’m fighting for Gods voice to be the loudest in my mind, because it’s a fight that matters for now and eternity! So today as I battle lies like the ones I listed above, I’m preaching to my mind & heart these Truths-

-I don’t have to have what it takes, because God does- Ephesians 3:20

-Its ok to be weak, because in my weakness He is made strong- 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

-I can’t do this, but God can- Isaiah 41:10

-I don’t have to be good enough, because Gods grace is sufficient- 2 Corinthians 3:4-6

Change is possible, because nothing is too hard for God- Jeremiah 32:27

-My worth is in Jesus, not my kids behavior. Failing at times doesn’t make me a failure- Psalm 37:23-24

-I don’t have to be the best or be like everyone else, because we are all running our own unique race for His glory. Psalm 139, 1 Peter 4:10-11

-Trials will not drown me, they will strengthen me- Romans 5:3-5, Isaiah 43:1-3

-I am seen & loved by God- Zephaniah 3:17

All we need to do is simply be still and lean into Gods infinite ability, strength, grace, love, truth, and wisdom to battle our motherhood journeys daily. There is no lie you are battling today that God’s Word cannot overcome, so go make a battle book, this momma is cheering you on!

Guest Post From Hannah Lugibihl

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Dear Mama,

I see you. Standing at the kitchen sink as the tears fall down your cheeks. You've been trying to get the dishes washed for at least an hour, while your kids work to gain your attention between their "Mommy, watch this"es and their meltdowns.

You feel pulled in a million different directions as the laundry piles up, the to-do list builds, your 5 year old just wants you to read a story with him, your 3 year old is screaming about ALL THE THINGS, your baby is crying instead of napping, and you know your husband is on his way home to the disaster of a house.

When your head finally hits the pillow at night, the guilt lays right down with you. You wonder if you fussed at the kids too much today. Or if you weren't firm enough. Or if the discipline you gave was even effective. The reel of “bad mom moments” plays in your brain on a loop. You wonder if any other mom is having this hard of a time, and promptly decide it’s just you. For some reason you just can’t handle this mom gig, and your kids would be much better off with a different, nicer, more fun mom.


It feels like the weight on your chest won’t allow you to even get up. The pressure feels suffocating as you try to juggle all the jobs, demands, and expectations. You feel like you're letting everyone down. That there's just not enough of you to go around. That you're not enough.

I see you. I've been you.

First let me tell you that the nagging voice in your head trying to throw all that guilt on top of you is not true. That voice is not God’s.

You ARE doing a good job.

Your kids DO love you (they probably even like you).

Your efforts are not futile.


Please hear me when I say this: there are more than enough things on your plate each day, and there is not enough room for guilt.


This season of mothering? It’s hard. It feels lonely. You're surrounded all day by small little people that are prone to selfishness. They ask and ask and want every little ounce you have to give without realizing you only have so much capacity. Your tank seems to runs dry, and it's hard to get it refilled. You somehow manage to find a minute to take a break, only to be met with mamas on Pinterest and Instagram who seemingly have every bit of their lives together. They have well-dressed kids and their hair is perfectly blown out or braided. Meanwhile some days you are living on dry shampoo and pulling clothes out of the laundry hamper because you forgot to start that load of laundry last night.


Sister, I'm going to venture to guess you are doing the best job you possibly can. So if some days it’s a dry shampoo and febreze-the-laundry day, don’t sweat it. You may have "fussed too much", you may have raised your voice too loudly, you may have spoken too quickly to your kids, or to your husband when he got home. But there is grace.


There is grace.


“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9


Did you love your kids today? Were they fed? Did they have clothes to wear (Febrezed or not)? Then mama, you are doing alright.


I know it feels like you have to constantly be all the things to all the people. I get it. I feel that way, too. But I promise you're doing a good job.


Tell that guilt that wants to eat away at you to go straight back to hell because that’s where it’s coming from. You don't have time for it, and it's just not the truth. Scripture tells us there’s no condemnation for those in Christ (Romans 8:1). It tells us the Holy Spirit is our helper and our comforter, not our condemner (John 14:26).


So go look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you're doing a good job. You're not ruining your kids. You're not a disappointment to them. They think you hung the moon. They think you're super woman. You're their most favorite person on the planet. And at the end of the day, instead of going through the list of all the things you think you did wrong, make a list of all the good things. The fun things you did and the memories you made. Make a list of all the things that are true about you: that you are beautiful, perfect, holy, chosen, and righteous...end of discussion. That may feel untrue, but we have to take God at His word (Col. 3:12, Heb. 10:14, Rom. 5:1, Eph. 2:10). And a beautiful, perfect, holy, chosen, and righteous mom is not a bad mom. And all those things I just said (and much more importantly, God has said) about you are always true even when you feel like a bad mom, even when you don’t make the perfect choice in a tired moment. You may feel like you're screwing it all up, but your kids don't think so. And I don't think so. And God doesn't think so.


You are enough, and you are doing a great job. I’m going to say it one more time because I know it can feel hard to believe, and we know for dang sure the enemy is yelling the opposite to us on the regular. Mama, you are enough, and you are doing a great job.

ABOUT HANNAH:

I’ve been to my college sweetheart for almost 11 years, and we live in Louisiana where we are raising our three boys, Evan (7), Porter (5), and Gibson (2). I’m a stay at home/work from home mom who blogs, takes photos, and paints, You can check out my artwork on facebook and instagram and follow along for my day to day life and encouragement @coldcoffeehotmess.

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